I grew up in West Virginia. My parents both professors, my dad mechanical and electrical engineering and my mother math (she taught math teachers how to teach math). In the summers my dad wrote the flow control code to most of the gas lines running through the state, I'd like to say his code has been replaced, but we'll I've worked too long and see to many horrors. I have and older sister who coaches swimming and is working on her PhD in how cold temperatures affect human performance. Her husband has a PhD in biochem but he blogs (editor) for a well known website)
I still talk, and video games, with 4 of my closest friends from high school. Two of them were co best men at my wedding. We all grew up doing lots of the same things, swim team, band, scouts, track and field, video games, being geeks when that wasn't cool kind of thing. We were all in jazz band together, I won outstanding soloist at the state completion for my drum solo. Two are lawyers, one a director at the ABA, and two of us engineers so we definitely like yo be pedantic. My wife doesn't understand who we're all still friends because of that but its out of love we are technically correct (the best kind of correct) to each other.
For me, well I lack the education my family has, even my wife has a masters and I just have my BS. My wife reminds me that I'm full of BS all the tome too. I wanted to be an architect until I really found out about what it takes to be a successful one, so I went into engineering instead, however being an architect was why VT was my dream school since I was 6.
My father grew up in Pearisburg, and as it says on the school, class of 60 never dies so he is going strong, has survived cancer and still plays 18 a day before mowing the lawn and hitting the gym for some pickleball.
My wife and I met through APO, and I'm like 95% sure I've met itrepeter while I was in college. We got married the dau of the Cibcy Game almost 12 years ago and our wedding photographer has a great picture of me yelling when the DJ showed me his phone which streaned us giving up a TD to lose.
My wife is amazing!
As I said last fall, we have twimo daughters that we've adopted. They are amazing and nerve racking at the same time. I've loved seeing them grow and have a chance to develop on their own (there's some co dependency there which is expected).
After college I moved to NoVa and have lived here since. I don't love it, but I don't hate it as much as it thought I would. I like having lots of things close, it's a contrast it WV. I have worked on landmine detection, carrier grade communication systems, enterprise security systems, big data systems, and space systems. I am currently in my 2nd stint in space.
I love to play games, when my wife amd I plays she wins the first game and maybe the 2nd and then I typically when from there on out except for cribbage, she taught me cribbage, I double shunked her the 3rd game while not knowing how to count my points. But I have challenged her on the way she plays amd she has gotten a lot better because she dropped some notions she had when she learned the game at like 5 years old. I would like to day were even, but she probably holds lead right now. We played a lot of dominion because every game is different with the cards you play with, but we've had to make some house rules after I've exploited the cards in ways that weren't really fun, for her. I like video games, diablo, destiny, ncaa football, and halo are probably where I've spent most of my time. I loved rpgs and adventure games as kids but they are a time sync that I dont have.
I've swam throughout my life, but did not swim in college. I swam in masters for years amd set a number of records and won one national title, but kids, wife, dogs take a lot of time.
My wife and I were doing luxury vacation rentals but we're getting out of that as children are time consuming and expensive, who knew.
Other than me rambling on, which I can do, and my wife tells me to wrap it up a lot. I lead a pretty normal boring life. My parents and in-laws are both still on their first marriages and at the point of no return. My wife and I don't fight, and our arguments are real arguments there about stupid stuff like how to eat a cucumber and is spelling part of grammar, or is a JD a doctoral degree. We like to argue about in consequential stuff. She also puts up with a lot as I like to sing (poorly) amd put songs in her head. Or I sing my own words, I've almost completed enough songs for an audio cook book that is set to gospel music, I'm pretty sure it's blasphemous, but I can make ratatouille from memory now.
EDIT: I completely forgot, I have seen football games in 45 college stadium.

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So I guess some standard questions to kick it off.
1) Cake or Pie?
2) How close to arrested have you ever been?
3) Biggest or best game you have ever been to?
Pie
Probably on my bachelor's party in New Orleans, my friend has the tiniest bladder known to man. So he need to piss so he pissed in the river so being like 4 hurricanes from Patty's deep we decided to join him and the cops came, we had just all luckily finished in time for cops to get there.
Miami-VT with Grant Noel was the greatest game we lost. Utah over Bama sugar bowl was great. From a historic perspective I was at Hawaii Fresno when Colt Brennan tied the passing td record and then got knocked the fuck out. My neighbor a few houses ago was friends with him and invited me over to tell Colt the story of me watching him get knocked out because he didn't remember the game at all. Colt is also not short like people were saying. I was also at a UF-Tennessee game where Ainge was the QB and the only reason UT won was because after wilhoit missed the XP to tie the UT safety punched a UF player and they flagged the retaliation so James Wilhoit hit a 53 harder to win it. That was a huge party after that game.
What's your favorite sound?
What's your guilty pleasure?
What's the nicest thing you've ever done for someone?
What has been the most surprising thing (good or bad) that you didn't see coming when you adopted your girls?
Rain in a tin roof. Or lately just quiet.
I love coke (the cola). I would give up just about ever other drink besides milk and water before I give up coke.
Surprising is their knowledge of the world around them. Coming from such a middle of nowhere southern state (even more middle of no where compared to WV) they knew lots of things thatbwas surprising, lulu was/is a thing, their positive attitudes to different races, religions, sexualities was not what I expected. The biggest thing i was not prepared for them not being able to sleep without lights on.
Thanks James...but you skipped one question.....🤪
I did, I'm trying to answer in my brief down times while taking kids around DC. This one is hard for me to answer because I don't know the good I've done sometimes (or the bad). There was a time this couple bought a TV from costco and were struggling to get it in their car, so I offered to help and got it in (it was hitting a bump in the seats or something). I think about that as maybe I prevented a fight later, or maybe it started a fight later. I helped a friend move a state way when he hadn't packed (that was a long day). Helping the food pantries in Pulaski, helping elderly neighbors, to just small things that I dont remember. It's really hard to know because if you commit random acts of kindness you never know what the output. My wife and I also volunteered for Random Acts, which is a charity started by Misha Collins of supernatural fame.
Sometimes the smallest gestures have the biggest impact on others when they dont expect it.....
What is your favorite album to listen too?
What is your favorite movie?
Album is tough, Dark side of the moon is probably the most complete album, but 2001 probably got my most plays. Offsprings smash is underrated.
Movie is somewhere between arsenic and old lace, Harvey, the sting, and/or charade
I learned to play cribbage and pinochle from my parents-n both fun games!. Also my favorite tailgate game is 'drinking backgammon'; same rules as regular backgammon (though we don't use the doubling cube and the rule we use is roll doubles you get to roll again up to three total rolls). The drinking part is you take a shot or a sip depending on your preference lol) every time you:
a) get put on the bar
b) can't get one of your men back in off the bar
c) roll doubles(also if the opponent rolls doubles and has another roll but you roll before his second roll by
mistake)
d) each time you bear a man off at the end stage of the game.
On average , the total sips/drinks taken per game averages about 25 or so -which if you take sips of beers is approximately two beers per game though if you get in a revenge battle where you hit opponents men when it doesn't make tactical or strategic sense then you can end up drinking lots more.
Oh and the winner is required to keep playing new opponents til they lose. Played this in college with grain lemonade mixed at 15 parts lemonade to 1 part grain. In "won" 5 games in a row and drank approximately 150-175 shots of grain lemonade - the equivalent of a stadium cup of grain in about 1.5 hours...THAT was harsh!
Nowadays I usually do just beer- occasionally rum and cokes.
Feel free to join me in Lot 18 this fall for a game or two!(open invitation to any TKPers)
I also play cribbage, pinochle, and backgammon, as well as spades. I can also play hearts, euchre and oh hell in a pinch.
Spades, hearts , and bridge (our friend group taught each other bridge in college-not competitive level player but not bad basic player); in a jam I could probably till fake Canasta lol.
Now within the family growing up , my mom was a shark playing basic (Klondike) solitaire(with three card flip, unlimited passes) and she and us kids would play double, triple, quadruple...all the way up to 8 way solitaire (where you could play on others' foundations ) and she was viciously fast and no respecter of kids' ages. Gave us all a competitive spirit lol. I REALLY miss those in the last 13 years since she passed...
single deck pinochle is my game!
took everyone's lunch money in HS playing spades and hearts.
played lots of euchre in the dorm.
I guess if they ever put me in the home, I'll at least know a few card games
I dont make it down for games that often but if I do I'll go to lot 18.
I do plan on going to the Duke game with the girls and my nephews.
Fellow jazz drummer! Who is your favorite jazz artist, and favorite jazz drummer? (If not the same)
I'm going to go off the wall here, Brian Wolfe who played with Manard Ferguson on swinging for schuur. Dianne Schuur has a Ella Fitzgerald style of singing.
Brian and his dad Jack are who I learned from. Jack was a trip.
Edit: wiki about album
If you don't mind sharing, what made you choose to adopt two kids?
Low sperm count
I do want to add that the decision was easier for me than my wife because I think blood is a wierd thing to care about. Families come in all shapes and sizes and worrying about heritage and bloodlines and even passing on a last name seems silly to me. It was so easy to bring these girls into our home and love them.
To add to this because people might find it interesting. My wife and I started are process in 2018. At that time the infant program was about two years on average to get a kid. It took a while for us as a couple to accept the loss of not being able to have kids our self, as adoptions always begin with loss.
It took is a while to get through all the paper work and the timing sucks and if any of thr timing is off you get set back a couple months and everyone works their butts off from our adoption agency, but nothing is well funded and well staffed. We've met a lot of amazing people and they all need their salaries doubled and then they need 2 more people for every one they have now.
Once we were approved for adoption and had a remote agency (northern va rarely sees kids due to the wealth and services in the area so you have to adopt infants out of state), we were seeing the occasional profile but not a lot. P.s. Every state has their own rules too, it's insane how bad the system is.
Then covid happened. Our remote agency went bankrupt, and the kids going up for adoption dropped to incredibly low. We found a new agency but they weren't as good as the others we've dealt with. They had issues with turnover too.
So fast forward to late 2022 and we had our meeting with our social worker and she really really suggested looking at Project Wait No Longer which was the "older" kid program (older than 2, but realistically 6 is one of the youngest due to how the system works). We talked it over and really it had been 6 years since we started talking adoption, all of our friends kids were 6 years older. We were 6 years older, and we didn't get married young. So we took our training and entered into the program. It took us 9 months to get our two amazing girls in our home but should have been 6 months or so due to us not being selected for the girls initially and then the placement didn't start due to a lot of issues with the other family being crazy. The girls fit so well in our family that I have no clue why we weren't thr first choice but oh well it worked out in the end. The oldest even was taking percussion at school and no one told us!!!! Again everyone is over worked in the industry and we worked with the people that made the selection and they were great everyone makes mistakes, it was just really hard when to us it was so fucking obvious.
So as I've documented here last August, we had a whirl wind time getting the girls in our house. May was when everything was finalized and now they have taken our last name (their choice). We constantly remind our adoption agency that it toom us 6 years so maybe us talking to perspective parents isn't the best for their moral. But on the other hand, infant adoptions still lage pre covid numbers.
I think it's fantastic that everything worked out for you, your wife, and your girls. As a parent that has lost a child, I know how precious it is to call a child yours, and have them call you daddy or mommy.
If you dont mind me asking, I'm curious as to how much the hard costs of having this adoption come to fruition has cost you over the years; i.e travel costs, application fees, training, couseling, etc- everything but the costs of buying things that you would normally spend if they were your biological children-
I don't even know honestly, the trips to the girls were covered-ish we paid for rental cars and food and such. But I just submitted reimbursement from my work that will give you $7000 to adopt and I was no where close to what we've paid. There was $10k that we paid to the agency that went bankrupt and we were in the last group they took so that hurt in a lot of ways that weren't bigger than just the adoption. I would say we've probably put in minimum $35k if not more.
Thanks for sharing James! I honestly thought it would be more than that.
It probably is, my wife handles our finances.
Same here.
I'm watching Trying now. And it's such a rollercoaster ride all along the way...and that's just a British comedy. Cheers. And great Outlook on family. I have many brothers throughout this world, none of which share blood w me.
What are you favorite pickles in terms of:
(1) The best of all time/anywhere
(2) Things that I might be able to actually find in a grocery store
The cheap movie theater in Fairmont, WV had like 25cent pickles growing up and they were delicious to my younger self. They might have been crap bit nostalgia is strong. They were big and juicy.
We've been buying Wegmans brand pickles lately, I dont get that extravagant on pickles. But I've like the Wegmans ones.
FWIW, I would get the Wegman's Polish Dills, but they stopped carrying them at my store. Still have them in spears, but not the whole ones, which really annoys me. Don't think the regular ones are anywhere near as good.
What other vegetable do you just bite the end off of?
Carrots, celery, fingerling potatoes, broccoli, cauliflower, Corn (shucked first), snow pea pods
I'd be find baking a potato and dipping it in butter and sour cream and just eating it by hand but typically they're too hot and I don't want to wait for them to cool down.
What is your favorite stroke in swimming?
Breaststroke, 200m.
I swim distance too, and the 400 IM a lot because no one wants to do it so easy points. I don't like fly, it sucks, no one fixed my form until I was an adult and it just sucks the life out of me to do correct form now. That being said I did a 200m long course fly at a meet in DC so I am not against the punishment. But I did hang out at the wall getting a great view of the Washington monument a bit long before my last 50. Was not my best turn.
What are 3 things that really grind your gears?
Soup and a sandwich- what are you having?
1)Vegetarians that eat chicken
2)Meatless foods that pretend to be meat(impossible is doable, but like chicken pot pie with tofu, why, there are lots of great vegetarian dishes already, stop trying to copy!)
3) when some one answers a question "because", it's not an answer
Grilled Cheese and Tomato are the best combo, my family makes our own tomato soup that is the best with grilled cheese.
If you're drinking whiskey, what are you drinking?
Blanton, I love it so much more than everything else.
If you want to know what's in the bar in the basement: Blanton, Redemption Rye, Weller, double oak woodford, and I think I still have some Elijah Craig.
But I rarely drink any more and never really with the girls around (they don't like me drinking when they've never seen me drink)
Definitely could drink together. Very similar to my bourbon collection at the moment.
I mean my wife says I can just talk to anyone and make a friend so not a lot of barriers other than distance 😉
Are you today years old when you learned that it's ltrepeter and not itrepeter?
huh, I guess so, learn something new everyday
Who is your favorite Hokie of all time?
What's something that you spend a lot of time thinking about?
If you could have a free pass to change a choice you made in the past, what would you change?
Favorite hokie: my wife
Thing I think about too much: every decision/interaction I've ever made and how I should have done it better
One change: it's hard because I lead a pretty good life. My decisions got me to where I am. Had I married my wife earlier we wouldn't have been the same people we are today, we would have adopted different kids, We would have had different houses, etc. So while I think about everything I haven't had an event that life defining that I would want to change. So I guess I should have invested everything in bitcoin in 2010.
This one hits close to home. I gave up on bitcoin around then when it dipped to $150 and I sold a couple when it bounced back to $230 to try to limit my losses 🤦♂️
Thanks James! I think we'll call the AMA series wrapped for this year, as football info is gonna start ramping up quickly here. I'll fire this back up next spring-
Thank you for organizing!