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What a joke the SEC circle jerk has become.

I think I've seen more putts hit other players' ball markers this year than ever before

thanks! kind of what I figured but very good to hear it from someone with experience

our daughter is a BCBA and she dove into the middle of her cousin's kids as soon as we got there. 10 minutes later she texts us, "B's pronouns are she/her". I wasn't surprised...dress over pink jeans, rainbow scarf, and introduced with a feminine nickname. But my wife felt obligated to double down. She immediately tracks me down..."you got M's text, right?" Apparently I'm viewed as being potentially insensitive; or that I don't always check my texts; or both, lol.

The general reason is that in earlier years, women of status were usually 'dressed' by their maids who were standing in front of them and buttoning them up and for the maid having their 'lady's buttons 'opposite' of men's meant it was what guys (who usually dressed themselves) consider 'normal'

I never realized this until thrifting a few shirts that I didn't know were women's. I always struggle getting them on.

Benefit of having three monitors at work. Two for work, one for golf. And a winner on Reed to par #15 at +100.

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I'd probably get a 10 on #5 today

It's really refreshing to see a 15 loss alabama at #22.... /s

First off, kudos for the parents and all of y'all for 'going with the flow'. Second, it's ok for your sister to struggle with it privately(as long as she isn't critical of the parents or show any disrespect especially towards the trans daughter(niece). Many people, understandably I think, are wary of very young kids being 'diagnosed' as trans at an extremely young ages as there are definitely many kids who are just experimenting and exploring who they are.

That being said, if the trans identification is persistent and strong, then there's nothing wrong with being supportive of it. I also believe that allowing kids to push the boundaries of traditional roles is fine though I do not particularly care for the parenting style of purposely NOT raising a kid as any gender absent any indications from the child. It is not an easy life being trans, and there are tradeoffs and consequences for embracing your trans identity.

While many folks who are trans DO 'know' from an early age that their identity didn't match their biology, it is NOT true for all trans people. I knew growing up that I was 'different' from most kids, but didn't know exactly how or why. For young kids who DO identify as trans early and strongly, it is important to know that NO medical procedures are done until the child approaches the onset of puberty. At that time, the use of blockers to suppress the 'unwanted' effects of hormones on their body is the only thing that is done until the child reaches mid to late teens. The blockers DELAY the onset of puberty and if stopped later the original birth biology puberty will ensue. The use of blockers is especially critical in male to female as it prevents the voice from lowering and the adam's apple and facial hair to not develop, and allows the bone structure of the hips to follow the female pattern-thus avoiding things that later HRT cannot change reverse as well as saving tens of thousands in electrolysis and facial feminization surgeries. The effect of female hormones is much better the younger they are begun and especially if before any male puberty has occurred. I started HRT at age 57, thus the results were not as dramatic as I would've liked. I had my breast augmentation surgery in December of last year-the HRT had taken them to A= cup size and the surgery took that to about C. I did 60 hours or so of electrolysis(at a cost of almost $5000) about 10 years ago, which combined with the hormones means I only have to shave facial hair once a dy. To completely eradicate the facial hair would require another 150-200 hours which would be an additional 10-20k which I can't afford. Also as my insurance doesn't cover the facial feminization surgeries, I can't afford that $10-20k as well either-though honestly I am not totally upset with what nature and HRT gave me. I would love to have a more feminine voice but the surgeries for that are very expensive and no guarantee that won't damage you voice or that the results would be satisfactory. Voice therapy can help but is very pricey too.

So summing up, support without 'pushing' someone too fast is the best approach in my opinion. At a TG conference I attended a year or so ago, there was a speaker- a trans tween and her mom. The 'audience ' were all CD or trans folks or allies. And the tween gave a speech and appeared 'over-the-top' exaggerated caricature of 'a female. It seemed as though she were almost coached by her mom, leading many of us to question whether the trans identity was inherent in the child or 'pushed' by the mom. While there was some applause, there were many of us who felt quite uncomfortable and some left the room during the speech.

Let things proceed naturally and at the child's pace. Don't be surprised if they express characteristics of both genders or a blend of them. Each person in the trans community has a different path- there are similarities and differences and together those paths weave a beautiful tapestry.

Done. My 14-yr old is addicted to legos and will love this.