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Bowl games, especially anything below the CFP are such a crap shoot anymore. Whose playing in the games? Too much to keep track of.

I've been there too brother. It will feel like it's the worst case scenario and you won't get through it, but it will get better. If you need someone to talk to who's gone through something similar - amicable and just wasn't working out, I'm sure Joe can send you my contact info.

Take care of yourself first and foremost physically and mentally.

Western Mich making Kennesaw re-think the move to FBS

I'm so sorry to hear about this, French.

I can certainly empathize as I recently went through this myself after 25 years of marriage. That is a big reason why I stepped back from TKP, and literally everything else in life, last year. It has been an incredibly long and somewhat challenging season, one that is finally behind me. Now we have some sense of our new place, both as individuals and as co-parents to some gown children. Since you asked, I'll share some thoughts...

1. No matter how things went, or will, go down, you need to make sure you have things in place for your own mental and emotional health. As stated above, make sure you are "loving yourself" along the way. I can't stress this enough. It isn't easily untangling from decades ( I don't know how long you two were together) of relationship history. Find your little network. You know, the one that reminds you of that famous Doc Holiday scene at the end of Tombstone? "Wyatt is my friend...."

2. Hire an attorney. Hire an attorney. Hire an attorney. Period. Some people can make it through the mediation process OK, and that does save quite a bit of money. Even if you go that route, things tend to get a little foggy as you're working through all the details of separation and divorce. Emotions will inevitably be stirred. Hire an attorney whichever route you decide to go. Additionally, everyone and their brother is going to have advice for you, but no one really knows. You will need an advocate. Spend the $5K or so to put someone on retainer and to have in your corner.

3. Live under, and with, grace. You will both need a whole lot of it along the way. Try to offer it as best as you can and then try to receive it from anywhere you can. This will be life for your own soul.

4. Try to figure out a way to make things move as quickly as possible. The more things drag out the longer it takes to move on and begin to live in your new reality.

I'm sure I have a thousand and one things to say, but most of that would be me projecting my own situation onto yours, which I may have done a little already. Mostly, I only know how to offer up prayers for people, so I'll do just that for you.

No matter where I move, those eyes follow me.

I'm still drinking my morning coffee and there's already a game on today. Western Michigan apparently had their coffee as well, while Kennsaw State has not... 21-0 with ~7 minutes left in the first quarter.

Pavia's courtroom clown show may continue. Saw several articles saying he is considering suing the Heisman Trust for ethnic discrimination due to voter differential between him and Mendoza. Hard to argue ethnic discrimination when the winner was of Cuban descent.

It's always tough to hear, but as one who has been through two divorces (both times with kids still in school), over time you might come to the realization that this is for the best. Probably not now while it is too raw, but in time.

While others here have suggested getting an attorney, I for one would counsel against that for right now. Getting attorneys involved right out of the gate draws battle lines that often end up costing both of you a lot of money that only goes into their pockets and can create deep, long-term chasms in your future relationship with the ex. Hopefully this can be as amicable as possible. I understand that some on this board, particularly attorneys, might not agree, but my experience (and many of my friends') has proved otherwise.

Without my knowing your personal situation, review the divorce laws from the state of domicile (easily found online), particularly re: alimony, child support, and separation of assets. On your own and using that information as guidance, write down what you think is rightfully yours and rightfully hers. See if Susan is willing to do the same on her end. Please note that often the laws, formulas, etc. are skewed in the wife's favor, and judges often immediately assume that the woman is the aggrieved party. If/when you are able to sit down with Susan, see if you both tend to agree on most, if not all, items. Chances are you will, but there will obviously be some disagreements, but I would recommend not offering anything more than you are legally required to. Hopefully, you have documentation of what were your assets prior to the marriage. The more you can work out between the two of you without attorneys, the more money and aggravation you will save in the long run. If the two of you need assistance, try mediation first before going to an attorney. If you are able to present to the judge a Separation Agreement that both of you have agreed to, in most cases the judge will rubber-stamp it as long as it is in compliance with state law.

Fortunately, I was able to navigate both divorces without hiring an attorney, and only my first wife used one nominally. In the long run, both were done relatively fairly, although it's tough to think anything is fair at first.

If alimony is in the picture, see if you can negotiate a one-time, lump sum payment (discounted for the time value of money, of course) instead of monthly payouts. I know a few divorced men who, even after several years, still get angry having to write that check every month.

If you'd like to talk offline, feel free to reach out.

That is a shocking photo. Holy cow

Thanks for the update. I'm honestly a little surprised you even had to ask. I think anyone who has been here more than 2 years would know that it didn't sound like DC. I know a lot of us give him grief for his bombastic style but his style was clear and consistent. This poster just didn't match that. I knew it wasn't DC

That's a head shot that will get after ya.

Me too buddy. Me too